If I Knew Then...

Stop making excuses.

jessicachu:

• If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
• If he doesn’t want you, nothing can make him stay.
• Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
• Stop trying to change yourselves for a relationship that is not meant to be. Slower is better. Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
• If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve, then heck no you can’t “be friends.” A friend wouldn’t mistreat a friend.
• Don’t settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
• Don’t stay because you think “it will get better.” You’ll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
• The only person you can control in the relationship is you.
• Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
• Maintain boundaries in how a man treats you. If something bothers you, speak u
• You cannot change a man’s behavior. Change comes from within.
• Don’t EVER make him feel like he is more important than you are… even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him a quasi-God.
• He is a man, nothing more, nothing less.
• Never let a man define who you are.
• Never borrow someone else’s man.
• If he cheated with you, he’ll cheat on you.
• A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
• All men are NOT dogs.
• You should not be the one doing all of the bending…. compromise is a two way street.
• You need time to heal between relationships… there is nothing cute about baggage… deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.
• You should never look for someone to complete you… a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals… look for someone complimentary… not supplementary.
• Dating is fun…. even if he doesn’t turn out to be Mr. Right.
• Make him miss you sometimes… when a man always knows where you are, and you’re always readily avaliable to him- he takes it for granted.
• Never move into his mother’s house.
• Never co-sign for a man.
• Don’t fully commit to a man who doesn’t give you everything that you need. Keep him in your radar but get to know others.